Cand pierzi ceea ce iubesti - When you lose what you love..

Cand pierzi ceea ce iubesti

pierzi ceea ce iubesti treci prin cinci etape:

1)Negare”Nu, nu pot sa cred ceea ce se intampla.

2)Furie:”Doamne, de ce ingadui lucrul acesta?”

3)Negociere-“Te rog, fa sa dispara durerea sau problema”

4)Depresie-Liniste si retragere.

5)Acceptare-“Voia Ta sa se faca,nu a mea.”

Indiferent de pierderea suferita , cand te intorci la Dumnezeu El te va imbratisa,va plange cu tine,te va elibera si te va face mai puternic.Uneori cautam eliberare rapida si ne eliberam inainte de a trece prin cele cinci etape.Si asta pentru ca ne temem de proces.Am fost invatati ca orice manifestare a sentimentelor este o manifestare a slabiciunii,asa ca le ascundem.Dar nu facem decat le ingramadim in cosul de gunoi al emotiilor si apoi sa ne cheltuim toata energia si timpul pentru a ne aseza pe capac,incercand sa impiedicam continutul sa se reverse in afara.”Veti cunoaste adevarul si adevarul va va face liberi!”(Ioan8:32).Cunoasterea si imbratisarea adevarului,inclusiv a aspectelor dureroase te va face liber.Trebuie sa fii dispus sa ierti.Dar pana cand nu reusesti sa te impaci cu enormitatea pierderii tale,inclusiv cu orice nedreptate ce ti s-a facut,nu esti gata sa ierti. Cand te grabesti sa ierti,ierti doar in parte si te simti eliberat doar in parte.Fugi cumva de durere?Incerci sa schimbi durerea cu alt sentiment in mod prematur?Nu aceasta este calea lui Dumnezeu.Domnul Isus a spus:”voi veti plange si va veti tangui…dar intristarea voastra se va preface in bucurie..si nimeni nu va va rapi bucuria voastra”(Ioan16:20-22)

sursa : Brosura "Cuvantul lui Dumnezeu pentru astazi" autor Bob Gass

When you lose what you love you go through five stages: (1) Denial - "No, it can't be happening." (2) Anger - "God, why are You permitting this?" (3) Bargaining - "Please make it go away." (4) Depression - Silence and withdrawal. (5) Acceptance - "Not my will but Yours be done."

Whether it's the loss of a child, a marriage, a job, your health, etc. when you turn to God He'll give you the grace to embrace it, grieve it, express it, release it, and go on to become stronger. Sometimes we seek quick relief by releasing it before we've gone through these stages. That's because we fear the process. We've been taught that any show of emotion is a show of weakness, so we stuff it. But we only stuff it into our emotional rubbish bin, then spend all our time and energy sitting on the lid, trying to keep the contents from spilling out. "You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (Jn 8:32). It's knowing and embracing the truth, including its painful aspects, that sets you free. You must be willing to forgive. But until you come to grips with the enormity of your loss, including any injustice of what was done to you, you are not ready to forgive. When you rush to forgive, you forgive only in part and you're released only in part.

Are you running from pain today? Are you trading it in prematurely for some other feeling? That's not God's way. Jesus said, "You will weep and mourn...but [eventually] your grief will turn to joy...and no one will take [it] away" (Jn 16:20-22 NIV).
(Source-Bob Gass)